In some contexts, the one mum’s appeal to stop parents from tickling their kids has split social media.
During online messaging the mother’s views were exchanged with another parent, who was posted on Facebook.
If your child says no to tickling-even when playing or having fun-a parent should stop immediately, the mum said.
“If they come looking for it/ask for it, they like it,” she wrote.
“Stop when they ask you to stop.
“It’s about consent and you are teaching them their body, their rules.”
The other parent was shocked by the mother’s stance, arguing it was all fun and games.
“So it’d be child abuse to do it to my kids?” the parent asked.
“They don’t like it, then they do, then they don’t, then they want [to be] tickled more.
“But generally it’s actually the best way to momentarily paralyse a toddler in order to get shoes on them.
“They will literally tell you to stop, then immediately ask to be tickled more.”
She added: “They like it … that doesn’t mean they want it consistently/all the time.”
The other parent argued that her two-year-old doesn’t “make the rules”.
“If he did, we’d eat raisins and watch tractor YouTube videos all day,” the parent said.
“He’s two. He doesn’t have rights over what he wears, where he goes and when etc.
“I’m not out here advocating it as a punishment or being excessively cruel about it.
“But c’mon I think you’re delving into this a bit far.”
However, the mother wouldn’t back down, and said: “This is one small thing you can do to show respect.
“It’s easy and causes no harm. Why wouldn’t you?”
“Tickling isn’t going to traumatise a kid in this case,” said one.
“It’s all fine and dandy to tell people how to parent their kids until you have kids of your own and you’re just trying to get through each and every day, then realise that parenting is much harder than it seems.”
Added another: “What? We argue about tickling now? 2020 is the worst.”
“I hate being tickled because my brother and sister would tickle me and tickle me and tickle me and wouldn’t stop even when I started crying. I’m totally with [the mum],” said one.
“I tickle my kids, but stop the second they ask me to.”
Added another: “I agree that it’s a great way to teach consent.”